Comments for nopokemeo http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog blog Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:01:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= Comment on Pinterest by monky http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2012/02/pinterest/#comment-526 monky Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:01:48 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=6842#comment-526 S! So good to hear from you :) I've often pondered how you were getting on post-desert, and I am glad to hear that readjusting is going well (hope all your nearest and dearest are fine and dandy). Ah, the questioning of purpose... that old chestnut? :D I find i've been doing something similar of late, mainly spurred on by The Powers That Be fermenting dissatisfaction in my brain. If the world only ran to my ideals Goddammit :) Anyway, thanks for your kind wishes. I hope that you manage to successfully navigate the new challenges of *not* dealing with juvenile know-it-all lawyers, and that you find something else, be it inside or outside of work that fulfils. Best Wishes! S! So good to hear from you :) I’ve often pondered how you were getting on post-desert, and I am glad to hear that readjusting is going well (hope all your nearest and dearest are fine and dandy). Ah, the questioning of purpose… that old chestnut? :D I find i’ve been doing something similar of late, mainly spurred on by The Powers That Be fermenting dissatisfaction in my brain. If the world only ran to my ideals Goddammit :)

Anyway, thanks for your kind wishes. I hope that you manage to successfully navigate the new challenges of *not* dealing with juvenile know-it-all lawyers, and that you find something else, be it inside or outside of work that fulfils.

Best Wishes!

]]> Comment on Pinterest by S http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2012/02/pinterest/#comment-525 S Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:46:28 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=6842#comment-525 What's up M? Seems like a lot has happened since I last logged on from the desert. Congrats on the positive developments in your love life - you deserve it. I am adjusting back to civilian life well. Great to be back with the family but at work there is a nagging ennui and persistent questioning of purpose. "feeding your family" seems to help assuage but I suspect a career change awaits me. Who knows, For now I am enjoying the interstitials at home. Enjoy the interstitial bliss in new adventure and take care. S What’s up M?

Seems like a lot has happened since I last logged on from the desert. Congrats on the positive developments in your love life – you deserve it. I am adjusting back to civilian life well. Great to be back with the family but at work there is a nagging ennui and persistent questioning of purpose. “feeding your family” seems to help assuage but I suspect a career change awaits me. Who knows, For now I am enjoying the interstitials at home. Enjoy the interstitial bliss in new adventure and take care.

S

]]> Comment on No Thanks by monky http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2012/01/no-thanks/#comment-500 monky Fri, 27 Jan 2012 09:09:54 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=6699#comment-500 Thanks! Was going to do something carefully argued, but settled for summarising to make my point, as then it looks less of a "You're shit, aaaaahhh!!!!" personal attack. Which i'd still be entitled to write, 'cos they are, but you gets me :) Won't make a difference, but it's good to at least try. Staff meeting about it on Tuesday, so something to look forward to... :D Thanks! Was going to do something carefully argued, but settled for summarising to make my point, as then it looks less of a “You’re shit, aaaaahhh!!!!” personal attack. Which i’d still be entitled to write, ‘cos they are, but you gets me :) Won’t make a difference, but it’s good to at least try. Staff meeting about it on Tuesday, so something to look forward to… :D

]]> Comment on No Thanks by Coppell http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2012/01/no-thanks/#comment-499 Coppell Fri, 27 Jan 2012 03:52:53 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=6699#comment-499 Looks good. It takes bravery to stand up for something like this. And it takes maturity to think about it carefully over days before bringing it up to colleagues. Very cool. Looks good. It takes bravery to stand up for something like this. And it takes maturity to think about it carefully over days before bringing it up to colleagues. Very cool.

]]> Comment on Responsibility and Routine by monky http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2011/10/responsibility/#comment-390 monky Wed, 12 Oct 2011 20:27:40 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=4946#comment-390 Don't go making me think, HF. I have long enough To Do lists at work :) Last night I finally finished my book on psychopathy and towards the end there was a sentence in it about women subjugating their aspirations, needs and personality to their psychopathic partner in order to reduce conflict and tension. This struck a chord in me, not because I’ve dated a psychopath but how well it described my past behaviours. My Mother was a role model for me when growing up with regards putting the needs of others before personal needs; I think as girls we are raised to sacrifice, be appealing, submissive. I know that many women struggle with keeping their identity and fulfilling their needs/desires when raising a family, and I think it’s only now that me and my bro are adults and my parents are retired that some semblance of pre-children self-determination can come back. Aaanyway, I feel happier and more, ahem, well-rounded at the moment than at any point in the last few years. I’m happier in my own skin and less likely to beat myself up over other people’s opinions of me, though ill-informed opinions still piss me off. Growth and all that :D It is however very easy to slip back into pleasing other people, and for the wrong reasons. I think I could start small by looking at my needs within a relationship as that’s what I’m spending a fair bit of time thinking about at the mo :) Am reading through some Maslow stuff and pondering my social network. Lists might occur some time this century. Worm food and a memory and a non-black, non-shiny granite, non-bright gold lettered headstone if you please :) http://www.creativereview.co.uk/cr-blog/2010/october/peter-saville-anthony-wilson-headstone Don’t go making me think, HF. I have long enough To Do lists at work :)

Last night I finally finished my book on psychopathy and towards the end there was a sentence in it about women subjugating their aspirations, needs and personality to their psychopathic partner in order to reduce conflict and tension. This struck a chord in me, not because I’ve dated a psychopath but how well it described my past behaviours.

My Mother was a role model for me when growing up with regards putting the needs of others before personal needs; I think as girls we are raised to sacrifice, be appealing, submissive. I know that many women struggle with keeping their identity and fulfilling their needs/desires when raising a family, and I think it’s only now that me and my bro are adults and my parents are retired that some semblance of pre-children self-determination can come back.

Aaanyway, I feel happier and more, ahem, well-rounded at the moment than at any point in the last few years. I’m happier in my own skin and less likely to beat myself up over other people’s opinions of me, though ill-informed opinions still piss me off. Growth and all that :D It is however very easy to slip back into pleasing other people, and for the wrong reasons. I think I could start small by looking at my needs within a relationship as that’s what I’m spending a fair bit of time thinking about at the mo :)

Am reading through some Maslow stuff and pondering my social network. Lists might occur some time this century.

Worm food and a memory and a non-black, non-shiny granite, non-bright gold lettered headstone if you please :)

http://www.creativereview.co.uk/cr-blog/2010/october/peter-saville-anthony-wilson-headstone

]]> Comment on Responsibility and Routine by Head Frack http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2011/10/responsibility/#comment-387 Head Frack Tue, 11 Oct 2011 23:52:57 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=4946#comment-387 In terms of looking after ones' self, may I add a couple of thoughts? I think -- and I'm certainly open to additional insight here -- personal health is a multifaceted thing. We should consider our physical health (exercise, nutrition, access to sleep and sex and clean air, water and security) as well as our psychological health. And to ensure we're addressing our psychological needs we should list them out. Think about your own psychological needs over time. What were they? How did you, or did you not, address them? What resources do you currently have at your disposal to address those needs? Take some time to think about this. Focus on it for several days. Write it down. Then write down what you can do to address those needs. Do you need friendship? What kind of friendship? The kind you get from strangers at the grocery? Or two very close friends that you've known for years? Or are 10-12 very casual friends quite enough for you? Do you need regular interaction with family? Are there people in your life that fill this emotional need who aren't your relatives? What about the parents and siblings of your friends? Think about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. What are your needs in each of the levels? Something tells me that pie is definitely a need (though not in large quantities). But so are human interactions -- sometimes 3500 miles away and sometimes closer. Don't be afraid to address your own personal needs aggressively. You only live once. And when it is over, we're all just worm food and a memory. In terms of looking after ones’ self, may I add a couple of thoughts? I think — and I’m certainly open to additional insight here — personal health is a multifaceted thing. We should consider our physical health (exercise, nutrition, access to sleep and sex and clean air, water and security) as well as our psychological health. And to ensure we’re addressing our psychological needs we should list them out. Think about your own psychological needs over time. What were they? How did you, or did you not, address them? What resources do you currently have at your disposal to address those needs? Take some time to think about this. Focus on it for several days. Write it down. Then write down what you can do to address those needs.

Do you need friendship? What kind of friendship? The kind you get from strangers at the grocery? Or two very close friends that you’ve known for years? Or are 10-12 very casual friends quite enough for you?

Do you need regular interaction with family? Are there people in your life that fill this emotional need who aren’t your relatives? What about the parents and siblings of your friends?

Think about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. What are your needs in each of the levels?

Something tells me that pie is definitely a need (though not in large quantities). But so are human interactions — sometimes 3500 miles away and sometimes closer. Don’t be afraid to address your own personal needs aggressively. You only live once. And when it is over, we’re all just worm food and a memory.

]]> Comment on Autumnal by S http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2011/09/autumnal/#comment-381 S Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:52:07 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=4469#comment-381 M - thank you for your kind wishes. I am (finally) confirmed on a flight out in a few days. Take care of yourself. Oh, and we have 2 boys. Hellions to the core. I will send a pic to you. All my best. S M – thank you for your kind wishes. I am (finally) confirmed on a flight out in a few days. Take care of yourself. Oh, and we have 2 boys. Hellions to the core. I will send a pic to you. All my best.

S

]]> Comment on Autumnal by monky http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2011/09/autumnal/#comment-374 monky Tue, 06 Sep 2011 22:09:27 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=4469#comment-374 S - Awww... Thank you for such kind and thoughtful words! I'm glad that the "treasures" (haha!) on here have helped distract you across an understandably difficult year. Thank you for your comments and points-of-view shared. I'm always glad to provide a little diversion :) Oh, and good job on staying safe. Even typing the words Camel Spiders gives me the heebie jeebies. URK. :D Please *don't* be a religious reader of nopoke- I would hope that all the things you've mentioned will fill your life wall to wall and you'll have little need for escapism. You have faaaaar more important things to crack on with. <br><br> I hope you find your significant other and small person(s) (sorry, I am *majorly* bad at remembering how many you've got now (one or two?)) hale and hearty and that getting "back in the world" goes smoothly. I always imagine that when people get back the first half hour shower is particularly sweet... Are you done permanently or could there be another tour in the future? Training horses and running races sounds pretty awesome! S – Awww… Thank you for such kind and thoughtful words! I’m glad that the “treasures” (haha!) on here have helped distract you across an understandably difficult year. Thank you for your comments and points-of-view shared. I’m always glad to provide a little diversion :) Oh, and good job on staying safe. Even typing the words Camel Spiders gives me the heebie jeebies. URK. :D

Please *don’t* be a religious reader of nopoke- I would hope that all the things you’ve mentioned will fill your life wall to wall and you’ll have little need for escapism. You have faaaaar more important things to crack on with.

I hope you find your significant other and small person(s) (sorry, I am *majorly* bad at remembering how many you’ve got now (one or two?)) hale and hearty and that getting “back in the world” goes smoothly. I always imagine that when people get back the first half hour shower is particularly sweet… Are you done permanently or could there be another tour in the future? Training horses and running races sounds pretty awesome!

]]> Comment on Autumnal by S http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2011/09/autumnal/#comment-372 S Tue, 06 Sep 2011 10:00:00 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=4469#comment-372 Dear M, My time here in Iraq is winding down. In a matter if weeks I will be jettisoned back into the life I left so abruptly a year or so ago. While I welcome the coming back, I never enjoy the leaving as the song goes (sort of). Before things devolve into a whirlwind of cramming my life into duffle bags and waiting on hot dusty runways, I wanted to take a moment out to say thank you. I have always enjoyed your writing and the treasures you find and post on your blog. While I can say I will continue to be a religious reader of nopokemeo, I know that, life being what it is, I have a job to pick back up, a family to get to know again, horses to train, and races to run. Though I know I will stop back by, I also know it will not be nearly as often as I would like. Your site has made a tough year easier and given me a spot of familiarity in an otherwise unfamiliar place. Thank you for keeping me company, and I truly wish you the absolute best in your life. We may never have met, but the person I see through your writing deserves nothing less. Take care of yourself. S Dear M,
My time here in Iraq is winding down. In a matter if weeks I will be jettisoned back into the life I left so abruptly a year or so ago. While I welcome the coming back, I never enjoy the leaving as the song goes (sort of). Before things devolve into a whirlwind of cramming my life into duffle bags and waiting on hot dusty runways, I wanted to take a moment out to say thank you. I have always enjoyed your writing and the treasures you find and post on your blog. While I can say I will continue to be a religious reader of nopokemeo, I know that, life being what it is, I have a job to pick back up, a family to get to know again, horses to train, and races to run. Though I know I will stop back by, I also know it will not be nearly as often as I would like. Your site has made a tough year easier and given me a spot of familiarity in an otherwise unfamiliar place. Thank you for keeping me company, and I truly wish you the absolute best in your life. We may never have met, but the person I see through your writing deserves nothing less. Take care of yourself.
S

]]> Comment on Weather Channel by S http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/2011/08/weather-channel/#comment-348 S Sun, 28 Aug 2011 17:48:50 +0000 http://www.nopokemeo.org/blog/?p=4371#comment-348 PS - I actually experienced thunder snow once out in New Mexico. Crazy cool. PS – I actually experienced thunder snow once out in New Mexico. Crazy cool.

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